Dear Struggling Jessica,
I wanted to write to you and let you know one of the biggest motivations for weight loss. I am sure in the future, you will struggle to figure out what your motivation is and if you want to keep going. I want you to read this letter when things get tough. When you can't eat what you want, when you don't want to exercise, when you have had a bad day and you don't know how to comfort yourself.
You want to lose weight to be a better mother. You don't want to be so tired all the time. You want to have the energy to be a stay-at-home mom who runs a business but finds time to enrich your children's lives. Today as your little boy cried on your lap, you wiped away his tears and kissed his cool, sweet smelling cheek you had an epiphany. You only get to do this once. ONCE. You get to witness them growing up ONE time only. Treasure it, embrace it, run with it. You are lucky enough to have a hard working husband and a successful (sometimes) business. These things allow you to stay home and witness your children as they grow. How incredibly amazing is that?
So when things get shitty and you cry about how life is so unfair, remember how awesome your children are. Remember how it feels to watch them run around a park, screaming and laughing. Running up to you to give you hugs and kisses. Burn the images of their beautiful, happy young faces into your brain and man the fuck up. Get over how life is hard and be so happy about what you have. Be happy about the amazing opportunity to be able to take advantage of such a surgery.
You have been given the opportunity of a lifetime. Don't screw it up. Your children deserve better.
--Fat Jessica
Hey Jessica! I'm glad to hear your kids are such a powerful motivator for you, and the love you feel for them is so clear and strong that it should help you a lot. However, even having surgery won't help the underlying issue I hear here: having a lot of stress and struggling with how to handle it. It's super-common! The key is just dealing with it in a healthy way.
ReplyDeleteTony Robbins explains that a need for comfort and certainty is one of our basic human needs–so if you know you can dissolve whatever issues you had during the day through eating or break the monotony of a bad day through "treating yourself," the need is met. However, we can get caught in an unhealthy cycle where we know what we’re doing isn’t helpful for weight loss, but keep doing it out of want for that comfort. Take a look at this video: http://bit.ly/MGFm2Z It does a great job explaining our different needs and how those sorts of habits develop–and more importantly, how to stop the difference between what we know we should do and what we end up doing.
Best of luck! You can totally do this. :)